the struggle is real for everyone
"People who put quotes as the title of their blogs are almost as bad as people who quote themselves." - Swan
the struggle is real for everyone
You know why women often say “nothing’s wrong” when something is definitely bothering them
It’s because men have been belittling, minimizing and mocking our emotions forever
And we are socialized to be as passive and undemanding and selfless as possible, and not to run any risk of bothering or angering a man lest he abandon or hurt us
It’s not passive aggression, it is fear
oh my god
Date a girl who breathes. Date a girl who takes in oxygen the same way you take in bullshit tropes, in and out and constantly. Date a girl who will set you on fire because she is a dragon, a warrior, a brutal reminder that she’s not a girl who triumphs herself “not like other girls” because she…
Anonymous said: Yeah no one believes your story about the male doctor who said your vagina looked like a porn stars. That's such bullshit it's unreal. Even if it is. That's like saying 'a black guy once carjacked me so I will refuse to have a black taxi driver' it's racist. And what you're saying about male doctors is sexist.
"Yeah no one believes your story about the male doctor who said your vagina looked like a porn stars."
I can see why you’d want to attempt to silence or dismiss my story, but just look at some of the notes in that post. Some women came forward with their own comparable stories as well. And I would have had a “witness” but at the time I didn’t know that I was allowed to ask to have someone (another woman) in the room with me as a patient advocate. So I’d like to take this time that you’ve so graciously given me to remind young women of that option.
"That’s such bullshit it’s unreal."
You’re right - it is total bullshit. It’s unreal, but it happens very day. Educate yourself on the ways male gynos have taken advantage of women in their office, how they joke with other male doctors about their patient’s anatomy afterwards, and how some even get off to it, and post to kink sites (as doms).
"Even if it is."
Well, I’m glad you’re starting to come around. I guess you took me up on my suggestion and actually googled some of that stuff.
"That’s like saying ‘a back guy once car jacked me so I will refuse to have a black taxi driver’ it’s racist."
It’s actually not anything like that. I know you were trying to create a “gotcha moment” here, but you fell flat on your face. Men abusing their power and privilege to further abuse and degrade women in a professional setting are not something I have to remain silent about. Especially when gyno appointments, even with the best doctor, can already be uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing, and potentially triggering. And also, the male doctor I had was white, in case you were wondering.
"And what you’re saying about male doctors is sexist."
You can’t be sexist against men in a patriarchal society, where they have institutionalized power and as far as gender goes, the sole ability to oppress. TL;DR: Misogyny is "get back here, bitch, we’re done when I say we’re done". Misandry is "leave me alone”.
I just stared at this for like ten minutes
Anxiety attacks, also known as panic attacks, are episodes of intense panic or fear. Anxiety attacks usually occur suddenly and without warning. Sometimes there’s an obvious trigger— getting stuck in an elevator, for example, or thinking about the big speech you have to give—but in other cases,…
yllwbrrd said: i'm white. does that make me bad?
Why do white people ask questions like this? Whenever I get this question, or the thematically similar “Do you hate white people” I just answer with “yes”.
Because that’s the only answer they want to hear.
In context, it makes sense. To a lot of white people, being black IS bad. You can see this evident when a white person tells a black person that they’re “one of the good ones.”
Whites allow for nuances in character for their own race. Rarely are white people grouped into “good” and “bad” categories. You can be a white person who is mostly good, then makes a terrible, terrible decision, but your lifetime of goodness mitigates that bad decision. In other words, white people accept that other white people are complicated and people are the sum of their choices, not merely a reflection of a “good” or “bad” moment.
But Whites LOVE to categorize Blacks as “good” and “bad.” You just have to look at the coverage of Trayvon Martin to see that the fact that he was arrested for smoking pot clearly put him in the “bad” camp right away. After that, Martin’s death was framed as him being the “bad” guy and Zimmerman was helpless but to defend himself.
So, when white people ask “I’m white. Does that make me bad?” what they are REALLY saying is, “I’m white. Are you going to hold me to same simplistic, binary judgement system I hold you to?”
Bolding for truth
White privilege is being able to sit through a Maths class without ignorant white boys throwing things/shouting things at you and being able to shut them up without a mixed race boy shouting “Go on! Miss Sass!”
White privilege is being in front of another black person in a queue and having the…